We know dance is good for the heart physically. The health benefits of an active lifestyle are undisputed; pumping blood through your heart by dancing will make you a fitter person. But this is surely not where the benefits end? Our metaphorical heart, that place where we all hope and want love to preside, can be filled with such joy and happiness through dance. And as for the soul, the therapeutic influence of dance cannot be underestimated. The trappings and woes of everyday life can disappear when confronted by the cleansing and stimulating nature of dance. Whilst such aspects are beyond the measurable confines of a human life, I feel the emotional benefits to one’s heart and soul can be measured by one simple thing - a cheerful life and a happy and passionate relationship.
Warning: The following advice may lead to the loss of income for marriage guidance counsellors and divorce lawyers.
PART 1: Dating Tips
In your younger years if anyone could have given you a piece of advice on how to navigate the tricky, tempestuous seas of love, then I believe it should have been “Learn To Dance!”
Dancing opens up so many opportunities to be in close proximity and tactile with the object of your loving intentions. Holding that someone special in your arms, moving in time with their body, undoubtedly this puts you three steps ahead of the competition?
PART 2: Staying Together
In an echo of my opening line, if one piece of advice could be given to anyone in a relationship, and especially to those who might be experiencing a decline in the passion department, it would be “Dance Together”.
I cannot recommend highly enough the therapeutic and bonding nature of dance. Stale or tense feelings can fade away on the dance floor; passion, chivalry and sexiness can all be amplified.
What could be more intimate than holding each other close, caressing each other with touch, moving sensually in time with one another’s body in response to the music? It is thought that 93% of our communication is non-verbal. Surely dancing will heighten these non-verbal skills, which will lead to better physical communication, and thus naturally improve verbal communication.
Ballroom and Latin American dancing is a fantastic way for couples to share time together and for their minds and bodies to connect publicly in a way that very few activities truly allow. It can promote and enhances the quality of contact between two people.
Whilst there may not be any tangible medical or psychological research, or even statistics, to show the extent to which dancing together improves, or has even saved, relationships, its rising popularity and the enjoyment and pleasure that can be seen in the couples in dance classes reflects the benefits of the efforts people are making to get to know their life partners better. Relationships are the fabric of our lives, they make us laugh, they make us cry; they are what ultimately make us into a ‘we’ rather than an ‘me’. Sharing is so much more rewarding and fulfilling and therefore dancing with a partner helps to provide us with the steps needed to strengthen healthy relationships and heal problematical ones.
PART 3: Join A Dance Class
Join a dance class or take private lessons. Make a commitment to intimacy. New challenges can be exciting and sharing a common goal with your other half allows you to face and conquer challenges on a psychological, emotional and physical journey together.
Simulate the feeling of when you first dated each other. Ballroom dancing is a part of an idyllic Golden Age, when courtesy and chivalry were commonplace. Being able to hold your partner recreates this environment for romance and intimacy, and sets the mood for passion both on and off the dance floor.